This has felt like a conversation I’ve been having with myself for a while now. I had heard about the Drink and Draw Like a Lady evenings in Portland and thought “woah, that’d be awesome! If I were there I’d totally go!”, and then did a double take. Nope, I wouldn’t go. Sad.

As I let more and more people know about where I’m at, and start to ask them to use Sam and male pronouns, I become more aware of the things that I have to give up. It’s not a regretful kind of thing, just a noticing of loss.

So, yes, apologies to: Erika MoenDylan MeconisCristy C. RoadLucy Knisley, Danielle Corsetto, and Kris Dresen.


14 responses to “Ladies

  1. I felt kinda wonky about going to DDLL West as I’m not really identifying as either female or male recently. I’m becoming this sort of nebulous whatsit that fencesits between all different genders. But then I thought to myself, “I should go anyway. Firstly, because it’s in Portland which is a scant two hour drive away. And secondly, I *have* identified as female in the past, and I think the good folks at DDLL would be *totally* amenable to someone who bucks the gender binary, especially if that someone draws comics.” It was a good decision, because I met some totally awesome folks there, and I got to visit an old venue I hadn’t been to in at least five years. (The Secret Society Lounge is quite a lovely place.)

    So I say, start up your own local DDLGQ, and meet some cool fellow comic artists!

    Carpe Diem,
    el jo

    • Yay, I’m glad you had such a lovely experience, and I totally loved your reasoning – it certainly seemed like a place where gender-binary-buckers would be welcome. I like the idea of a DDLGQ too, though I think I’m prepared to meet anyone around these parts who draws comics, there’s so few that I know.

  2. The comics world is under-represented by transguys.

    I kept all my female heroes when I transitioned.

    Don’t sweat it!

  3. Remember when Erika Moen married to a British fella? And she started identifying as “queer” instead of “lesbian?” S’all good! You’ll always be a queer comic artist, and we need more of ’em.

    If it’s good enough for Moen … it’s good enough for me (and you). 🙂

  4. Aw hey, even though you’re feeling that loss as you progress in your transition, don’t think for a second that you’re losing your *connection to* lady cartoonists just because you’re not one 🙂

    Making comics is not about the gender of the cartoonists, it’s about making good, compelling comics. Which is what you’re already doing, and noticeably improving every time you update! Just keep it up and keep being a Good Person and you’ll always be welcome around cartoonists in the “comics community”, be they female, male or neither.

    (Also, heehee! Thanks for the cameo!)

    • Hey thanks, yes I agree, it’s not the gender but the stories people tell. I guess I’m just noticing some difference of where my viewpoint is seen from as I transition.

      It’s been really nice to try and get some of these ideas on paper and stick (mostly) to a schedule, it seems like people read it so I’ll keep going.

      And I got your book in the mail yesterday! It’s so awesome that you included your early stuff alongside the most recent DAR – it whoooshed me back to my younger self in all her angst. Seriously that angst-bucket image is one that allllways pops in my mind.

  5. Hey!
    I wanted to share a story that happened about a year ago when I first launched my webcomic – – around the 2nd or 3rd week I saw my stats go from like 20 people to like 3000 people one day. I wondered ‘what in the world is going on?’ Well that day I got an email from a trans reader who thought that ‘trap’
    in this strip ( was referring to a slang term used in the trans community. The reader was SO excited that a trans cartoonist was making comics that identified with them. Unfortunately I had to explain that it was a misunderstanding (I’m a gal), but there is a community of people out there that could definitely embrace you if you make comics that speak to them (: Either way no matter what gender you identify with – your work stands on its own!!
    Anyway that’s my 2-cents, keep up the cartooning (:

    • Oh wow, that’s pretty awesome, if a little bit awkward. You’re two-cents was very much excellent, and very much appreciated.

      Loved your strip today, btw – I wish I’d got to go to an x-files class 🙂

  6. I feel sort of the opposite about being a girl who does comics, I’m also Asian looking so I was afraid if I did a comic it would get lumped into “oh it’s another women autobio!” or “here’s an asian american artist!” or what have you. So I ended up doing the furthest thing from celebrating being a girl in comics by making my autobio comic appear as not-me-looking at all. Haha. But I do think DDLL are just about celebrating being in the industry and the NY ones have been a lot of fun for me, even though it was something I had previously not thought I would mesh well with.

    • Yeh I can understand that perspective – being lumped in with a category (such as woman, asian, straight, gay… and all the rest) can sometimes work to dismiss your individuality. I’m really glad that things like DDLL have been fun for you – I think they could be a really great idea. I also kinda like the idea of turning yourself into something else for your comics, but how did you end up choosing a hedgehog for yourself?

  7. I think of it this way. Men might be overrepresented in comics, but I defy you to try and name five trans men in comics. I can think of… less than five. (Tab Kimpton, who does Khaos Komix and a couple others who do transguy comics.)

    I’m sorta on the opposite side as you; pretty much all the comics in my shelf right now are written by men. Which is kinda D:, now that I think of it…

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